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Please share your stories here how the Jehovah Witnesses have affected your lives. Thank you all and peace on your journey. Just type in the answer to the math question below and type in your story. February 22, at I quit going for the most part but felt very guilty. I was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder and put on lots of meds and a few months later lost my job. I eventually found a few other jobs. One I worked as a traveler and coming home from that job I lost my brakes in the mountains and accidently drove my car off about a 15 foot cliff.

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Dear Angie — thank you for visiting and sharing your resource. Randall Keller I see only women commenting. I have been alienated for one year from my sons.

Some might think this is vanilla and if they need more of a tear jerking emotionally gut retrenching romance with harps and cherubs there are artists or bad boys who would suit your needs.

We were not talking the same language and misunderstandings were the rule. I learnt the hard way what Asperger Syndrome was. No other option seems available to us. What is even more horrifying and disabling for us is the requirement on our part to patiently endure being corrected, directed, criticized and often rudely spoken to regularly by our AS partners, sometimes constantly, as they work on forming us into more complete and tolerable partners for themselves, while we weather the torpedo blasts of rage and reaction they direct towards us if we suggest an imperfection in them.

It was exposed to me almost every day and I had trained myself not to pay attention because it was too stressful for me. But this time he was unusually verbally cruel. He did not respond to my requests to stop, but increased the cruel verbal abuses.

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You feel like you are going crazy. They turn everything around. They will make you feel like you are the one that is going crazy instead of them. You might become paranoid.

As you read the words she speaks about me, even you can see they come from a place of love.

Tweet We all know that the workplace is a minefield for sexual tension. Where else do you lock up people of the opposite sex for eight hours a day, and tell them to talk with each other but not touch? It is unnatural, and ever since men let women into the workplace, we have been adjusting. It is totally normal to have a crush on someone at work. And it is totally normal for people to tell you not to act on it. And it is totally normal to throw caution to the wind. According to Helaine Olen, author of the book Office Mate , more than fifty percent of the population is dating someone from work.

So if you’re going to do it, here are some best practices for getting the guy: Flirt verbally rather than nonverbally According to research reported in the Journal of Psychological Science via Live Science , men are not good at reading nonverbal cues. They mistake a friendly smile as a sexual overture, for example. But researchers found that men also missed nonverbal signs of sexual interest: On top of that, if your office is full of knowledge workers, who are paid because they do a good job of synthesizing information, the missed cues will probably be even higher.

Because research about Asperger’s syndrome tells us how the brain develops its ability to read nonverbal cues.

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In one response, you mentioned that one of your ex-girlfriends had not communicated a concern she had with you about being moody, anxious, etc. I have a moody boyfriend, and it seems that just about anything negative that happens in his life can get him in a bad mood. He just backs away, and stays there, sometimes for days. Sometimes I just ignore it, go about my business, and wait for him to re-emerge.

Since you mentioned being moody, I was wondering — is that a thing of the past? Are you still moody, and if so, how does your wife deal with it?

I will say that I think resolving your family conflict is virtually impossible without professional help and I would encourage you to seek that.

Helping each other enjoy life and relationships on the spectrum. Saturday, May 26, The Hidden Autistics – Asperger’s in Adults Recently I encountered a problem while collaborating with a group therapist with whom I share a patient. My patient has progressed quickly in therapy, as do many adults on the spectrum. However he did not start off as stereotypically autistic.

In fact, initially he presented as many of my patients do: Typical posture, gait and gesturing. It took a few sessions to realize this fine gentleman suffered mightly with the symtoms of Asperger Syndrome, which he kept well managed and thoroughly hidden. Contrary to the stereotyoes of adults on the spectrum, my patient displayed no “meltdown” behavior, was keenly TOO keenly aware of people’s reactions to him and exhibited no bizarre special interests or encyclopedic knowledge of vaccuum models.

In fact, “Joe”, as we’ll call him, socialized quite well.

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How would you know? The person may be able to identify basic emotions, such as intense anger, sadness or happiness yet lack an understanding of more subtle expressions of emotions such as confusion, jealousy or worry. A person is diagnosed based on the signs and symptoms he or she has rather than the results of a specific laboratory or other type of test. The assessment process itself is time consuming and it can be costly.

These men often do the best they can in relationships.

Granted, those are women sharing their experiences, however to be fair, men are experiencing a lot of this as well. Do you find yourself, much like Alice In Wonderland, attempting to peer into or jump through the looking glass, desperate for answers, while the man in your life seems to care less? I get a lot of questions posed to me from the post referenced above.

When men behave peculiar towards women, women have a tendency to blame themselves. This is not Prince Charming gals, this is a man waving a giant red flag in your face. How could he be? He wants to hurry this process along so he can get in and get out just as quickly. He’ll compliment you, he’ll act as if he’s really interested, he’ll communicate regularly and with gusto in the early stages and he’ll come on very strong at first, speeding things right along.

So fast that you’ll never see it coming. This guy is emotionally immature and lacks the social skills necessary to interact in a genuine manner — so he fakes it. Be very leary of the man who is all too ready to commit. Takes My Number, Gives Me His, And Doesn’t Call I see this one alot because too many women are the pursuer these days and it has led to a whole new generation of lazy men when it comes to dating.

Stop being your own worst enemies, ladies! You want a man to woo you and treat you like a lady, yet, many of you chase him like a man exhibit masculine energy , which keeps him from lifting a finger for you – stop this!

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Like some weird psalm.

June 4, By Love Engineer Editor 27 Comments Shares There is all types of engineers out there and each of them can vary in personalities. But like all men they are simple. But like with any man they have their needs as do women. When dating an engineer you have to remember they think analytical and practical. Logical thinking will always prevail over the romantic gestures. This type of thinking is excellent for a life partner if you are seeking marriage or a long term relationship that is stable.

In my book I rather pick stable and practical person, such as an engineer to have a relationship with then a romantic that is unreliable, commitment phoebe who is in and out of your life. This does not mean engineers are not romantic, however more so by the book romantic such as going to look at sunsets, giving red roses or taking you on a trip to napa valley for the weekend.

Some might think this is vanilla and if they need more of a tear jerking emotionally gut retrenching romance with harps and cherubs there are artists or bad boys who would suit your needs. When deciding engineers are your thing be warned their personalities vary depending on what segment their profession is in. I have noticed different engineering professions cultivate different personalities.

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Generally, there are two types of narcissists: Cerebral narcissists, on the other hand, flaunt their intelligence and knowledge to obtain attention and admiration. General Characteristics Sex And The Narcissist Narcissists are generally exhibitionists and sex is just another tool in their toolbox for getting attention and adulation. Narcissists commit adultery and have extramarital affairs or liaisons for a variety of reasons including control, power, attention, increasing self-image and because narcissists get bored easily.

Intimacy does not exist. Narcissists are unable to empathize or genuinely love another person.

Girls considering marrying an Aspie, you are kidding yourself.

Work place Relationships Everyone, regardless of whether they have asperger sy ndrome or not, struggles at times in relationships with others. It is true that aspies may have more difficulties than some, but the fact remains that every person who has friends or is in a relationship sometimes find it hard to get on and communicate well with the other party or parties. The difficulty with understanding jokes and abstract concepts can also make communications within a relationship somewhat harder than the average relationship.

Difficulty understanding social cues may also make communicating somewhat challenging for those with asperger syndrome. Finding it hard to understand facial expresses or to read between the lines with what others say or do can also make relationship building a challenge. Being attached to fixed routines may at times make it difficult to develop deep and meaningful relationships. But regardless of the challenges it is possible to develop real friendships and relationships, but will take some effort and understanding from everyone involved.

Marriage One issue that can especially arise in marriage is the difficulty that a person with aspergers has in empathizing with others. Emotions and feelings are important in marriage, or any relationship for that matter, and if the couple is unable to share these emotions with each other then it can put additional strain on the relationship and marriage. It may not even be that the person with aspergers does not experience emotions, but rather that he or she does not know how to express these emotions.

If you step back for a moment and imagine what it would be like if you did feel various emotions in different situations and yet were unable to know how to express these emotions, then what would you do? How would you feel in such circumstances? According to some aspies this is indeed the case, that they feel emotions, sometimes evenly strongly, but are not able to display and express what they are feeling inside.

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Then it becomes clear her mood has altered, startlingly. Susan Boyle was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome only last year, she is pictured here on Santa Monica Beach, California Direct questions from her own people are met with a glare, to the point that food is ordered for her. She rolls her eyes and mutters under her breath. Attempts are made to try to cajole a sweeter mood out of the star. Susan glares at that too, then stabs her straw into it.

It too gets a death stare, as does everyone who tries to help her to some, me included.

It is a bonus to an engineer if you love sci-fi and get sci-fi humor.

A relationship with an Aspergers partner may take on more of the characteristics of a business partnership or arrangement. Although he genuinely loves his spouse, the Aspie does not know how to show this in a practical way sometimes. An Aspie is often attracted to someone who shares his interests or passions, and this can form a good basis for their relationship.

An Aspie needs time alone. Often the best thing the NT partner can do is give her Aspie the freedom of a few hours alone while she visits friends or goes shopping. An Aspie often has a particular interest or hobby. While this may border on obsessive, the NT partner would do well to show interest in it. It may even become something they can do together. She will need patience and perseverance as well as understanding that he functions on a different emotional level to her.

Aspies do marry, and while NT partners can be frustrated by their lack of emotion and physical contact, their Aspergers spouses do bring strengths into the relationship. If there is open communication, the NT partner can help her Aspie to improve in areas of weakness and encourage him in the things he is naturally good at.

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There are things you can do to make their lives better. Here are three things that stand out to me. There are all kinds of unwritten rules we adhere to in order to not run each other over. The Asperger car is the one on cruise control at exactly the speed limit. And then they will argue.

They are so badly brainwashed or reprogrammed by their dad whenever they talk to him about coming to see me and they are adults!

Countless studies show individuals would rather have pleasant and personable co-workers than a co-worker who is always right. But sometimes my plans fail. Both high and low functioning individuals have very poor short-term working memory, but they often have a better long-term memory than most normal individuals. I cannot handle multiple tasks at the same time. The boss must recognize your social limitations. Sell your work, not your personality. Make a portfolio of your work.

Dr. Mike Emlet – How can a wife love a husband who suffers with Aspergers Syndrome?